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Monday, November 7, 2011

Just a Wife

As you read this post, keep in my mind my reasons for starting this blog. In really life I am a quiet person until I get to know you. I have lived in Iowa just over a year now and still don't feel any really bonds with the woman around me. I use this blog as an outlet. Sometimes, I will type things like nobody is watching. 

In response to today's 31 days to love post, I do feel like I am I kind wife. I may be too kind. My own self esteem suffers from it. My home is no where near perfectly clean and/or decorated, but it's mine. I spend my days home schooling my children and don't always get everything done that I want to. I usually have meals cooked and bread baked. Not a big fan of treats in the house because I eat it. I know, selfish. 

A new thing that I have been doing on the evenings my husband is home from work early is have the kids greet him at the door. They usually would say hi and go back to what they were doing. Now, electronics are banned until later in the evening. We sit in the living room and focus all of our attention on dad. Has he noticed?  I'm not really sure. Usually within 15 minutes the remote is in hand and he is in his own world. 

I understand that he has to decompress. I got that, but I don't understand that he calls this spending time together. The tv stays on until we go to "bed." Then the bedroom tv goes on or the laptop is open. In other words, when he is at work he is not here and when he is home, he is not here. 

I love my husband dearly and I guess you are wondering if I have spoken to him about this. The answer is no. I don't plan to either. I feel that he is an adult and that is obviously how he wants to spend his time. Who am I to tell him different. Will this put a strain on our marriage? I don't know. 


  1. One of the most important things in a marriage is communication. He may not even know this bothers you. Maybe you could tell him in a loving manner. Chris

  2. I agree with Chris. But I would also add, pray about it first; ask the Lord to give you direction on how to approach your husband in a way that he can "hear" what you are saying. He may never know how you feel if you haven't shared it with him.

    Take care.
    In His love,

  3. Thanks for the advice, you guys.

  4. Hey Desiree,

    Here's wishing you and your family a merry, merry Christmas!!

    Take care,